I am a child. I’m 40, but I’m a child. I have no wish to grow up and do adult things. I want someone to look after me and do all those things, take me to the dentist, sort out my washing, insure my car… I would like it if I still had my mum making my tea. She would also like this.
Sadly at the insistence of society and my husband I am forced to do things which as a child I’m not really grown up enough to do, in my opinion – I even had to arrange the purchase of my own house by managing the solictor, bank and seller, which is outrageous as my husband/mum should have done that. They are both actual adults.
For me, adulting is what nomad said – boring, responsible things – but with the underlying feeling that you’ll be found out as not appropriately qualified to complete the activities, like when you tried to buy alcohol from the off licence underage. It’s pretending to be an adult.
@sai The point is that it potentially makes the decision making for the donor family easier but it’s not, as has been said on the news, a silver bullet. I’m not a policy-maker, FWIW! Can you imagine how damaging it would be for the whole NHS organ donation “movement” if donors were taken off for donation when the family don’t agree?
I’m not saying I agree or disagree with the new rules, I’m telling you why the new rules are being implemented. There is a vast shortage of organ donors and if this means we get more, and that it gets people discussing organ donation with their families and becoming embedded in our culture, then I find it difficult to think of it as wholly negative.
I work in organ donation and I can tell you that even though it is changing to opt-out, the donor’s family will still get the final say as to whether donation goes ahead, and which organs and tissues will or will not be consented for (which is what happens now). The hospital will NOT go ahead with organ donation under any circumstances if the donor’s family decline donation. There are many rules and regulations in place to prevent donation going ahead without informed consent. The new opt-out rule has been put in place so that when the donor family is being approached regarding donation, it may make their decision easier if they know their loved one is on the Organ Donor Register/hasn’t opted out. There will also be safeguarding rules regarding under 18’s and people with limited capacity to understand the decision, and also for people who have been living in England for less that one year – these people will be exempt from the new rules.