I think sometimes we can’t see the wood for the trees.
Maybe if you feel that every aspect of your life requires decision making, try breaking it down, simplify things.
Take each aspect and ask why you are dissatisfied with it, what is making you need to change things.
Perhaps just one thing needs changing then everything else will slot into place accordingly?
It’s horrible when you feel not one thing is going well, I hope you can find some good solutions.
My son had aliver transplant as a baby, which fortunately he doesn’t remember, but years later he was diagnosed with ptsd, as he worried constantly about his health and over reacted to any aches and pains, very difficult in a child, and I always worried we could miss something important by dismissing it. As he has got older it has become more difficult to discuss his care infront of the many doctors he still sees, as he becomes very anxious and depressed if he feels something isn’t right with his liver. I now write my concerns down and his doctors are happy to read this and tailor the appointment around what I have told them. My mother was in a difficult situation with an eldery friend who was really loosing it, had no close relatives to explain the issues, but the friend could cover up all their problems infront of the GP. Mum wrote to her friends GP who was more than happy to investigate further and her friend received the help they badly needed.
Perhaps dropping the GP a letter detailing how your husband is and how it is effecting you would help, I would always write and ask for the letter to be coppied into the notes. I hope he gets better very soon.
I’m guessing he’s reasonably intelligent, the problem is with his toddler level of control, and his teeny tiny attention span, coupled with a thin skin and vindictive streak.
Good job nobody reads these, or he’d send the feds round!