kim

I was very cynical “oh I’d never go online dating it’s not safe etc”

Clubbing only seemed to give the same old “will you come back to mine” (I never did) or exchanging numbers never to hear from them again. Did meet one through work a few years back and had a couple of dates but was very awkward at work after. He’s now a friend so his un-reliability doesn’t bother me any more!

Seemed destined to be a future crazy cat lady and my friend was in long term relationship with someone off Plenty of Fish as was my cousin so signed up.

Had a few dates with one of the first men I spoke to, but just wasn’t the connection my side. Still friends with him on fb and he’s in long term relationship.

Had a few first date onlys and was thinking do I just give up.

Glad I didn’t as met my oh of over a year and a half on there 😊

It possibly helped I went in quite suspicious so if they seemed “dodgy” I phased out the talking. It helped on pof it says what their intention was eg looking for a relationship/ wants to date but nothing serious etc. I avoided the wanting to date but nothing serious as I was looking for something more long term, I also spoke to them for a couple of weeks as you can be having a normal conversation and they suddenly ask you to be their girlfriend when you haven’t actually met them yet…. they also had to be capable of holding a conversation that wasn’t just started “hey baby” or “hey babe” yep not met you or even spoken to you so I’m not your baby!

It is at times hilarious (I should have written down what some of them wrote to me/ on their profile), it does feel naff when you’re getting on really well with one and arranging to meet up and poof they just disappear. It was frustrating if they were lovely but too far away.

I think it gives you a chance to meet a wider range of men who you may never come across in “real life” I know I would never have met oh without it. He wanted to be exclusive after 3 dates and we deleted our profiles so it was nice he couldn’t be tempted by the wide variety of women who looked far prettier than me!

Tinder on the other hand I wouldn’t touch as it seems much more of a hook up/ casual site than others. Hopefully I won’t need to but if I was single again I would use pof again.