Narcissism taking selfies?

Aren’t we all slightly narcissistic? Dressing up nicely to go out for a meal, making sure we look nice.
Could be an argument for social situational acceptability, but by definition, slightly narcissistic?

However, to the topic, I also feel a ‘selfie’ is such a broad spectrum, it cannot be considered wholly narcissistic.
You could take a selfie without any thought to your personal appearance? But to capture an event, or reaction, with friends?

Aren’t we all slightly narcissistic?

I’m sure we all are to some extent.

..making sure we look nice.

Is vanity the same thing as narcissism? Is making an effort to look nice on a special occasion even an act of vanity, or could it merely be compliance with social convention?

Starting a thread like this is arguably an act of narcissism: “My opinion on {this random subject} is important. everybody pay attention to this!”
Is it more or less narcissistic than taking a ‘selfie’ I wonder?

@paki Dressing in decent clothes for an evening out is no more than social convention and, arguably, good manners towards your companions. I often dress in reasonable clothes then go straight out without even looking in a mirror.

Taking selfies and staring at them or manipulating them to hide your imagined defects is quite definitely narcissism, no different from staring at yourself in a mirror.

I think narcissism and vanity would both come from the same ‘source’ if you like, but it seems like in written text their meanings can be overlapping or different, depending on the context.

narcissism
noun
excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one’s physical appearance.
PSYCHOLOGY
extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one’s own talents and a craving for admiration, as characterizing a personality type.
PSYCHOANALYSIS
self-centredness arising from failure to distinguish the self from external objects, either in very young babies or as a feature of mental disorder.

vanity
noun
1.
excessive pride in or admiration of one’s own appearance or achievements.
“it flattered his vanity to think I was in love with him”
synonyms: conceit, conceitedness, self-conceit, narcissism, self-love, self-admiration, self-regard, self-absorption, self-obsession, self-centredness, egotism, egoism, egocentrism, egomania; More
2.
the quality of being worthless or futile.
“the vanity of human wishes”
synonyms: futility, uselessness, pointlessness, worthlessness, purposelessness, idleness, fruitlessness, profitlessness
“the vanity of all desires of the will”

Someone once made the case to me that having bookshelves at home was narcissistic.

The books are all read, will unlikely ever be opened again, and are prominently on display so visitors are in awe of one’s reading accomplishments. Apart from potentially inspiring conversation (competing to display greater literary knowledge), they serve as nothing more than ego boosters or inconvenient wall-paper.

Found it hard to mount a rousing defense for the venerable paper tome. I don’t like the smell of them, they’re awkward to shift and consume valuable trees. Looking at my limited shelf at the moment, considering all the problems it is going to cause me, I can’t think of many reasons other than a desire to display knowledge that makes me keep them.

Social media seems to be the prime outlet for narcissists these days.